Individuals have spent a lot of money in the search for love; others have found right on their doorstep. Why is it that some people spend their whole lives searching for something that others find love easily?
It comes down to what your expectations are, some set extremely high standards, usually unrealistic ones, standards that nobody can live up to. Others take people for what they are, accepting their idiosyncrasies.
The people who have set impossible standards have an unrealistic view of themselves. They can’t see their own faults and therefore they expect that their chosen partner will be as perfect as they think they are. Nobody is perfect, least of all the person who expects his partner to be perfect.
Finally if this type of person finds someone who they think is up to the standards that they have set they will then continually look for fault in their chosen person, this is their nature. They look for the faults in a person instead of looking for the good things.
If you are looking for love you will never find it if you think that you are smarter than everybody else. Arrogance is not a quality that attracts love, not true and lasting love, in order to find love and make it last you have to put your partner first.
Look at your circle of friends, if you call somebody a friend usually you have common interests and ideals. The same goes for partners in life, love is sometimes confused with lust, if you want to find love you must also like the person, my wife for example is also my best friend.
The first step you have to take when you are looking for love is to look into yourself, search yourself, are you looking for love or are you looking for the impossible dream, a perfect, flawless person.
Don’t believe old sayings, especially the one about opposites attract, perhaps they do but when you are talking about people they may attract but they wont stay together. You should look for someone who is similar to yourself, someone who has the same interests and the same goals in life.
When you are lucky enough to find that one person who compliments you, who you can call your other half, don't let that love die. You have to nurture love, you have to keep it interesting.
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